If you know someone going through pregnancy loss or infant death and don’t know what to say or do or how to help, we want you to be able to have a place where you can find information, and appreciate you wanting to learn more in order to be the best support system possible.
We work to bring empathy and compassion of this community to healthcare professionals and support systems to increase awareness and understanding, encouraging the human connection without judgment.
As the support structure for the bereaved, the best thing you can do is just be there and listen. I recommend reading the children’s book “The Rabbit Listened” as it encapsulates how to be there for a grieving person in a simple and beautiful way.
Seek First to Understand:
- As A Bereaved Parent, I’m Sick Of The Way Child Loss Is Portrayed In TV And Movies | Scary Mommy
- To The Relationships I’ve Lost Since My Son Died | Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep
- Taking a Different Approach on Abortion, from a Mormon mom | Design Mom
- Sharing Pictures Of My Stillborn Son Is Not ‘Gross’ | ScaryMommy
- Why So Many Women Are Forced to Lie About Terminating Wanted Pregnancies | InStyle
- Bad Food | Life After Infant Loss
Books to Humanize and Dispel Misinformation:
- You or Someone You Love: Reflections from an Abortion Doula | Hannah Matthews
- In her Shoes: Women of the Eighth, a Memoir and Anthology | Erin Darcy
What to Do:
- Take Them a Meal
- Meaningful Items in a Difficult Time | Take Them a Meal
- How to Support Someone Through Loss and Transition | Take Them a Meal
- 12 Ways I Needed Support After My Baby Died | Modern Loss
- Supporting Bereaved Parents | Return to Zero
- Helping Parents Whose Baby Has Died | March of Dimes
- Send an Elf Army of Light Comfort Box
What NOT to Say:
- 9 Things You Should Never Say to a Grieving Person | Real Simple
- Don’t Talk About How ‘It gets Better’ | Modern Loss
- What Not to Say to a Grieving Parent | WatersWife Vlogs
- What Not to Say to a Woman Expecting After a Loss | WatersWife Vlogs
- Nora McInerny: We don’t “move on” from grief. We move forward with it | TED Talk
- Stop Saying “I’m Sorry for Your Loss” | Psychology Today